Love and Laughter – A Father’s Tale

Love and Laughter – A Father’s Tale

To most people, the relationship between father and son is often full of tension. Maybe fathers are often stereotyped to be serious and stern. But is that always true in real life?

An old Chinese saying goes: “kind father raises dutiful son”. Under all the seriousness, the father’s love is inadvertently conveyed through life moments. And one of the reasons many children bury themselves at work is to be able to return their parents’ loving care one day.

This short film underlines a father’s love for his son knows no boundaries.

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Are parents responsible for child abuse?

Are parents responsible for child abuse?

Are parents responsible for child abuse?

Desa Mentari Satu is one of many places in the country filled with poor blue collar workers and their families. With few funds and little resources to aid them, many of them still struggle to make ends meet. The people who live in places like this tend to go about unseen and unheard from the authorities, making them extremely vulnerable to crime and abuse.

James Nayagam, the founder and chairman of The Suriana Welfare Society, has spent over 35 years working to help children from impoverished families. The NGO runs several free art and music classes, providing the children with a place where they can play and express themselves freely. The group also carefully observes their student’s behaviours in order to identify if they are victims of abuse.

We ask them to relate to us what happens in their house. And then during play therapy we see how they play with the children. During art therapy we see what colors they use. If they say they feel sad, we ask ‘who made you sad?’ and then the story will come out.

The Suriana Welfare Society is one of the only organisations in Malaysia that works to identify and prevent child abuse among the lower sections of society. Unfortunately, there are only so many that they can help. While the statistics are kept locked up by the Official Secrets Act (OSA), many believe that a majority of child abuse cases go unreported. According to the police, over 13, 000 child sex abuse cases were reported in Malaysia between 2012 and 2016, of which only 1% resulted in convictions.

Child sex abuse cases

The horrible thing is that is may only be the tip of the iceberg – it is believed that many other cases go unreported due to fear or apathy.

We used to teach the child. But the children say they don’t want to tell the adult because they’ll say ‘what nonsense are you talking about?

Shaney Cheng, the Training and Education Executive of P.S the Children.

The arrest of paedophile Richard Huckle in 2016 revealed a shockingly large number of victims that had apparently slipped through the system. The shock and outrage caused by this revelation prompted Prime Minister Najib Razak to set up a special task force to “look into ways to combat sexual crimes against children” But for many victims, it was already too late.

Child abuse is a horrible crime, one that can leave permanent scars. The physical and mental negative effects can potentially ruin the victim’s life. The problems are only amplified by an apathetic, judgemental society that is quick to complain and blurt out their outrage on social media, only to forget all about the problem in a few days. Some conservative families even try to force their children to marry their rapists in order to save face!

Richard Huckle the pedophile

To fight back against this menace, we as Malaysians must stop trying to ignore the problem or pretending that it doesn’t exist. Child abuse is a stain on the fabric of society, one that should be removed as thoroughly as possible.

To find out more about what you can do to identify or prevent child abuse, contact Suriana Welfare Society at their facebook

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A rite of passage for Muslim boys

A rite of passage for Muslim boys

A rite of passage for Muslim boys

Thousands of Muslim Malaysian boys begin their journey into adulthood at mass circumcision ceremonies each year during school holiday seasons.

 

Md Nazir Sufari   |   17 Dec 2016

Fear means nothing to these boys aged from four to 12, who bravely face the ritual of berkhatan or bersunat (male circumcision) at Bandar Tun Hussein Onn in Balakong last Sunday.

Circumcision, usually performed on boys aged between six and 12 years, requires the foreskin of the penis to be removed.

It is believed that this will make it easier for the boys to clean themselves, especially after urinating. Islam demands that Muslims cleanse themselves before they pray.

Muslims make up 60 percent of Malaysia’s 30 million people.

Young Muslim boys are doused with water prior to a mass circumcision ceremony at Bandar Tun Hussein Onn in Balakong near Kuala Lumpur.

A boy covers his face with his sarong while being circumcised. It is traditional for boys to don the sarong during and while recuperating from circumcision.

A father consoles his son while medical officers circumcise the Muslim boy during the mass circumcision ceremony in Bandar Tun Hussein Onn.

Medical officers are silhouetted as they circumcise a Muslim boy during the event at Bandar Tun Hussein Onn, near Kuala Lumpur.

A Muslim boy is shown a video on a mobile phone to distract him during the circumcision procedure.

Some of the equipment used by medical officers during the circumcision procedure.

Four-year-old Amirul Daniel cries while being circumcised.

Twins, Muhammad Amjad Najdi Mohd Faisal (left) and Muhammad Ammar Najdi Mohd Faisal, recuperate after their circumcision.

Photographs by Md Nazir Sufari

5 Christmas gift ideas for your boyfriend

5 Christmas gift ideas for your boyfriend

5 Christmas gift ideas for your boyfriend

Well, it’s that time of year again. Holiday songs are playing, jingle bells are ringing, and shopping malls all across the world are breaking out the tinsel and Christmas trees.

Finding a good present can be hard, especially if you’re trying to impress someone. Guys in particular can be difficult to buy presents for, which is why we’ve made a list of gift ideas for your boyfriend or boy “friend” this Christmas.

1. Gadgets

Men love their technological toys.

Whether it’s the latest iPhone, a big screen tablet or even that shiny new X-box system, there’s bound to be some kind of gadget that they’d secretly love to own.

2. Let them make something

You know what guys like? Making stuff.

Look around and see what your man might be interested in. Give him the chance to unleash his inner child and create his own toys this Christmas.

3. Something stylish

Girls aren’t the only ones who like looking good.

A fancy suit can make a guy feel like a classy gentleman even if his bank account doesn’t have a dozen zeroes at the end.

4. A unique experience

Nowadays, everyone seems to be rushing around everywhere.

Whether it’s relaxing on the beach, visiting a museum or even playing a game of paintball, he’ll remember the experience long after he’s forgotten about that sweater at the back of his closet that his aunt gave him.

5. Cash

If all else fails and you truly have no idea what to get him…

Remember that everyone likes free money. Men are usually more practical than you think.

Do you agree? Share this with your friends and see what they think.

Zameen Datta, Intern, Malaysiakini

14 December 2016

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